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You're On Your Own (But I'm Here if You Need Me) : Mentoring Your Child During the College Years | 
 enlarge | Author: Marjorie Savage
Publisher: Fireside
Category: Book
List Price: $14.95
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Rating:  6 reviews
Sales Rank: 296610
Format: Bargain Price
Media: Paperback
Number Of Items: 1
Pages: 272
ASIN: B0002OUQOO
Publication Date: July 8, 2003
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Realistic and practical advice for parents of college-age kidsParents whose kids are away at college have a tough tightrope to walk: they naturally want to stay connected to their children, yet they also need to let go. What's more, kids often send mixed messages: they crave space, but they rely on their parents' advice and assistance. Not surprisingly, it's hard to know when it's appropriate to get involved in your child's life and when it's better to back off. You're On Your Own (But I'm Here If You Need Me) helps parents identify the boundaries between necessary involvement and respect for their child's independence. Marjorie Savage, who as a parent herself empathizes with moms and dads, but who as a student services professional understands kids, offers advice on wide-ranging issues, including: • How to cope with your family's mood changes in the months before move-in day on campus• Why students complain about the food but still manage to gain fifteen pounds their first year • How to teach basic financial responsibility, including the handling of credit cards and academic expenses • When parental intervention is critical With anecdotes and suggestions from experienced parents and college staffs nationwide, the strategies and tips provided throughout will help you to create a loving, supportive partnership responsive to the needs of both you and your children.
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 A good guide to the basics, but deeper social pressures are the real challenge December 20, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
This is a good book to guide you through the perils of academics and basic college issues. However, the sad fact of most American universities is that exams are easy and you will do great on them if you go to class, do the readings, and study. The greater challenge is dealing with social pressures and lifestyle decisions that can prevent you from making it to class and hinder your ability to study. It is when personal lives impede on academic lives that students begin to struggle. To prepare for college, students need to prepare for the overwhelming social madness they are going to be encountering on campus. I thus recommend you buy a book that deals with real college life like: COLLEGE LIFE EXTREME: Lies, Sex, Drugs and Violenceor Pledged: The Secret Life of Sororitiesor Goat: A Memoir.
 Great book for parents sending a kid to college the first time March 29, 2008
1 out of 1 found this review helpful
This book is an easy ready with a lot of excellent information. As a school counselor, I present programs for parents on how their lives and homes change when a child goes to college. This book is an excellent resource . It offers suggestions on how you can mentor your child and support them through this transition to adulthood while also encouraging more independence.
Much more than I ever expected..... March 8, 2008
4 out of 4 found this review helpful
If you buy only one book to help prepare for your child going off to college, this is it. The book starts out with the changes to expect the summer before college and how to prepare. It then goes on, chapter by chapter, following the process of adjusting to new life roles, parenting from a distance, how to offer support academically, socially, financially, and emotionally each step of the way. It even has a few chapters on post-college adjustment. In the back of the book is a handy four-year calendar detailing the main issues to be addressed, and, oh yes, at the end of each chapter are helpful tips for the student. As a result of this book I have now prepared a plastic file box with carrying handle for each of my graduating children. I put seven hanging file folders inside and labeled them: academic, financial, housing, auto, health, and computer so they have a place to store important information and can quickly retrieve it when needed. The seventh folder has "quick tips" which I gleaned form the end of each chapter and which I think will come in handy for my kids.
Letting Go WIth Grace November 3, 2006
8 out of 10 found this review helpful
"You're on Your Own" and "Letting Go" (Coburn/Treeger) are both insightful companions for an emotionally intense moment of parenting. Another great book for sending a young adult into the world with the loving counsel of the people important to him or her (YOU!) is "Words to Live By: A Journal of Wisdom for Someone You Love" (Emily/Kate Marshall).
Must Read For Moms and Dads of HS Grads May 25, 2005
30 out of 30 found this review helpful
This is a great book for parents of high school seniors to help prepare for eventual empty nesting. Sending your kid to college is like potty training, you know you have to do it, but you aren't so sure if you'll live through it. But of course they do learn to use the toilet and they move away to college as well (hopefully in that order)!
Marjorie is very thorough in explaining what to expect every step of the way. It prepares you for orientation, moving, visits home, etc., so you can do your best to help you and your "child" navigate the college maze. She covers all angles, so if junior will be commuting or moving to the other side of the country, you'll get guidance.
I now have two daughters at University of Minnesota where Marjorie heads the University of Minnesota parent office and does a super job. My friends have kids at other universities and they are amazed at how in touch I am with the happenings on campus because of the weekly update U-MN parents get. It's so much easier to have a conversation with your kid if you are enlightened. She makes sure we know what they need to do when (like registering or paying bills) so we don't have to nag the kid. At U-MN we are lucky to have her, now everyone can benefit from her insight and wisdom.
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